Do You Need Any Help?

Do you need help? Yes, I need one. Help is something we usually do, depending on our mood and even ask in mood, and we get help in mood too. We always teach our child to help others. But do we adults do this by heart? We ask, but in the name of asking. If we get a reply as “no”, then we are happy inside. If we get a reply as “yes”, then we curse ourselves why we have asked?

“Do you need any help? ” – we keep asking this question in order to reduce someone’s work or reduce someone’s tension. But sometimes, we get so exhausted from our daily routine that we forget to ask this question. Due to many restrictions in this pandemic, we failed to ask even if we wanted to ask. But yet, people helped each other somehow in this difficult situation. But what amused me was people started asking this same question on social media when Bollywood Actor Sushant Singh Rajput departed his life. Well, Sushant Singh Rajput passed away on 14 June 2020, i.e. in the peak pandemic year and that time It was said that he was in depression and he committed suicide by hanging himself. Later, It turned out to be murder and the investigation is still going on. So, when the depression news broke out, everyone started posting on social media that we will help you, talk to us, etc etc and all that.

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My question here is “Will you surely help people who are in depression?”. Do you have that much time and energy to listen and understand someone’s story? If we don’t have someone’s phone number and that person calls you, then we will wait for truecaller. And upon knowing who is calling you, we either hang up the phone, send him a “busy in meeting” message or you will wait till the call disconnects on its own. But you will not pick the call. Harsh, but true. We never pick a call, if we don’t want to talk to that person. Then how come you are helping us?

In this pandemic, we saw a frightful cut of. The people who were lucky enough were overloaded by work. They didn’t had a choice and were working day and night in order to keep their job safe. Hence, people were exceedingly busy in meetings and meeting their deadline. In such a scenario, if some depressed person called you then you can’t tell him that you are busy. You can’t tell them to call later. A depressed person will be in more depression after hearing such a response from you. So leave it and please don’t help anyone.

This pandemic has put almost everyone in depression. Some people are still struggling to meet their needs. But they are not losing hope and trying their best to search for a job. For such people “Do you need any help?” is nothing but a curse for them. Some people believe in themselves so much that they don’t take help from anyone. And thus, we think that they don’t need help. But such people badly need you because they are already in such a bad stage and they don’t want us to take their tensions. So in such a situation, please understand and try to help with their basic needs.

Some people need financial help. But money always puts our relationship into trouble. We understand someone’s needs yet we don’t help them because of only one reason and that is that we don’t want to break the relationship. Still I will express my desire to financially help someone at least not extensively but partially. This will at least maintain the relationship. Well, in the end it totally depends on you and how much you want to help. No force, no compulsion.

To all people who are in depression, talking does help. But it also depends on the person whom you are talking to. Because you never know when your secrets will be revealed by them. So, in order to fight your depression, you have to go to a psychiatrist and get treated. There is no shame in consulting a doctor. Brain is your part of the body and it has to be nurtured. What’s the use of eating healthy food but not giving the right instructions to your brain? Your diet will be useless if you don’t treat your brain well. So without any hesitation consult a doctor. Go out, take a walk, meet and greet people. And don’t depend on other people. Take a day off from your daily routine, and go for a small vacation or one day trip. Try to keep your house and surroundings clean. This will help in positive vibes. Pray and meditate everyday for your own betterment. Eat food on time and listen to good music.

Well, I need help… Please suggest a topic for my next post.   

Drop A Line

This time, I thought of many topics. But I didn’t have any topic to write about. And hence, I am writing about “why I’m writing?” Some people definitely have this question in their mind, “Why is Deepika writing? Why can’t she shut up and stop writing?”. Well, sorry readers, I will write and will continue to write till we don’t become friends. I wrote on many topics, right from, “Why do we share our feelings on social media?” till “Why should take time from busy life?” I wrote about many festivals too, like Ganesh Chaturthi, Holi etc.  It was the year 2009 that I started writing this blog and here’s my first post. And believe me that time my blog was hit. Without any social media support, I used to get genuine hits and comments on my posts. But due to some reasons, I stopped writing and then I didn’t have any topic to write much about. I tried to use my brain hard (Ha Ha), but all I was getting was the same content. Like my career, My blog also has a gap of almost 2 year, after every 1 year, starting from 2012. Then suddenly in lockdown, I came up with an online school post. Though the topic was a little boring for me, because it was an on-going topic at that time. But People did like that post. And Today also whenever I share that link, I do get likes and comments, but on social media. There was an on and off of my posts. It was sad to see that my post had very few hits despite having social media support. I tried all the possibilities, I started sharing the links here and there, but the number of visitors to my site had drastically reduced. Finally, I bought the domain and now I am happy to see the number of new visitors.

Buying this website helped a lot. I have gained followers on twitter too. My friends started giving me topics to drop a line on. Surprisingly, even Linkedin gave me one topic to start one conversation on the Linkedin website. Though, I didn’t start any conversation there but yes, I dropped a line on it. It was about the “future of work“.  Feels good, when I see retweets, likes and new followers on twitter. To multiply website hits, we have used social media so much that now people actually started ignoring such messages. But it’s ok, because I am also one of them. In twitter, I have to read so much content that I start liking the post without reading it. What to do, A cause for a cause. Support for writing blogs is huge on twitter. (Well, I came to know this lately)

But why do I write? Writing actually makes some points better. Writing actually heals. It makes things good or worse depending on the post. But yes, you earn if you are a  good content writer. If you keep on writing, you will not only get new topics but also you will be recognized. Some of my posts are close to my heart. and yes, I got a positive response too. Some posts I have written are negative and yes, I have negative comments too. Thanks to WordPress, for moderation of comments. If you are extremely angry, and want to take out your anger, write it on a notepad, WordPad or on a piece of paper. It will help to flush out all your anger. Writing also makes your memory strong. Writing down the things helps to not-to-forget things. And to be more precise, the brain loves pen and paper. Rather than typing, if you write using pen and paper then you will remember things better. You will be more accurate and your concentration power will be more because writing each alphabet / words by hand helps in  developing skills.

Just a simple scenario, in the office, before we start our work, we make a to-do list. But why? As I said, writing things makes us not-to-forget the important work. We can easily prioritize our  to-do list. And If by any chance, if we don’t complete the list then we can easily carry forward to the next day. And hence writing down things is a must. Same case in our kitchen. If some groceries are out of stock in our house, then we make a list, and add other items too in that list, before going shopping. In this way, we stay organized.

In this internet world, we have all apps. But still, writing by hand on a piece of paper tends to boost your ability to retain information, comprehend new ideas, and be more productive. It’s not bad to type, but as per research, the people who type on a laptop or any other device perform poorly in exams as they don’t have writing skills. It is totally up to you what and how you want to write. Do keep writing. 

My childhood days, I had this secret diary. On the first page, I had written – “This book belongs to Deepika, please do not read it”. Later, I came to know that it was read by all  (ha ha!!). But yes, from my childhood days, writing has helped me. If someone steals my pencil that also I use to write in my secret diary book.

So, Drop a line. Drop more lines. Drop even more lines. Drop even more lines than that.