Hello my readers. Today there is no topic. No, means, my topic name, “Rejection”. Sometimes, it can be disturbing for us, when we get “No” from someone. Whether it is job or love or success or some small trip, A “No” ruins our day badly. We had prepared well for a job interview, prepared well to say to someone “I love you”, prepared to ask for financial help for success, But we never prepared for rejection. Reason, we sometimes don’t think in other ways. People who have given lots of interviews don’t take the rejection seriously. Infact, we should never take rejection seriously. Rejection always has some different story, some different angle.
Sometimes, I am also scared to say “No” for something, to any person. Whenever I want to say No, I always frame the sentence in such a way that the other person should not feel bad. But I hate to do this. Why does someone not understand the “No” language? Why does he or she have to take it seriously?
This happened to me once. I was told to take responsibility for some other kid for sometime. I politely refused because my own kid was very hyper active and hence I was behind her, all eyes on her. As I was scared that my kid wouldn’t hurt another kid. But the lady got angry and started lecturing me, saying, “it’s just a matter of a few minutes. How can you say no?” I again started explaining to her my situation, and also I was running here and there, behind my daughter. But the lady was running behind me just to express her anger. I was so pissed off, that my voice got raised and told her to find someone else. Yet she continued. I chose to be silent then. After a few minutes, some parents came to me and said she always does this. and we all say no to her. Here, my only question? Why was the rejection so hard? Why was she not able to understand my situation here? But I can’t blame her, because there are few incidents like this and it was from the people whom I knew well.
Well, sometimes, I also don’t accept rejection. Mainly from my daughter. My daughter always says “No” whatever it is. She likes to be in her own world. And if I disturb her and ask a few things then she will always reject me. Though she is small, she doesn’t understand much. But I still ask for an answer for her rejection. If I am not happy with her answer then, I fight with her alot. She says “No” so much that one day I ask her many questions. All her answers were “No”, “No, I will not say”, “I don’t want to answer”, etc. Then I asked whether she would like to have Maggie. And her answer was “no”. Later she realized what she said and she forced me to prepare Maggie for her. and then my answer was “NO”.
It is said, “Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough, it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer”. Sorry, but I completely disagree with this slogan. If you are not good enough, you have to accept that. You can’t become a pilot overnight to fly. If you are good at one thing, it means you are bad at something else. You can take out any motivational stories, some are school dropouts, some are college dropouts, some had failed marriage, etc. But yet they succeed in something else. So, You are. If you get rejected, it means you are zero in that particular point, and you have to work out a lot. If not then your destiny has some other plans.
Boys say that we girls hide our real face from makeup, indirectly forcing them not to reject us from marriage. First of all dear boys, you are not so dum that you fail to see the makeup. If any girl has done heavy makeup, and still you accepted her, by her looks then you have to get your eye check up done. There are many cases, where girls were naturally beautiful, and for some unfortunate incident they lost her beauty, which resulted in divorce. So no need to blame girls with makeup.
It is said that rejection affects our mental health. Sorry, again I don’t agree with this. The problem here is not rejection. The problem here is your mental health. That needs to be nurtured first. As I have written earlier, that lady was upset because I refused to see her kid. So here, my rejection was not a problem. Her mental health was so poor that a simple requesting “No”, made her mad. She couldn’t understand my problem too and hence rejection was blamed.
Saying “No” is not at all bad. Just Say No, if you are not comfortable. A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise. It is always better than a wrong selection. It is someone’s opinion. So get used to rejections. If you are rejected, just say “ok, not today, maybe tomorrow”. And always believe in yourself.
Thanks for reading, my readers. Hope you like my post. It’s ok, if you say “No”, because I know, not all my posts are good.
Hello my Fabulous reader. Happy Reading to you all. I am addicted to social media. Sometimes I wonder, what will be my life if I start uninstalling all my social media apps. I like to spend time on social media a lot. Sometimes for fun and sometimes to learn something. I am fond of synonyms and like to use it wherever applicable. I have even written one post on it. Do check it out. “English- The supreme Being“. Do not want to lie to you, I even see some rubbish videos. Some people have lots of time creating and editing. But what is amusing is that they have lots of guts to upload the same on social media. And yes, they get more likes and comments. Though all comments are slang, this is what they want. Attention and publicity. Netizens don’t understand that the more likes and comments, the more powerful the post will be and will flash every time on the first screen, urging more people to interact with that post.
When only Facebook was ruling, that time In India (I don’t know about other countries), there were several posts of undernutrition sick kids, with the message saying it needs 50k or 1 lac likes to save this kid. Sometimes they even said to write “prayers” in the comment section or something like this to save the kid. Yes, the post used to get that many likes and comments. As I mentioned earlier, the more likes and comments, the more powerful the post will be. and hence the revenue. Yes, people earn through this. But there was no proof, whether the post was genuine or not. Hence, there were many articles urging people not to like and comment. Well, I don’t have that article right now, because it’s too old.
To avoid this, funding came into picture. People took maximum use of this. and even succeed. and then came this lady. Click here to see what she did. She became very popular when caught. Such incidents make people stop helping others.
Still there are many post of soldiers or god’s, saying that a nude girl will get like, but a soldier will never get like. So I stalk this guy to check how much he follows his own rule. Laughter, his posts were full of nude girls. Such people create nudity and wants to educate people. Not only that, people follow dead people. I never understood this logic, how can you follow the person, when you know that he is already dead. There are many celebrities like this who are no more but their followers increased after their death. The celebrities or the family are not the ones who upload the pics in their social media account. It’s their PR team. And once the celebrity is gone, why will the PR team be with them?
Yes I do comment sometimes. Not on such content. But on the content who gives incomplete or false information. Recently, there was one ad on Facebook, regarding a newly launched high-rise building. The project is near my area and hence I know the area very well. The project said, “Sea view facing”. I commented, “It’s not at all sea view. It’s a creek view and this is Mumbai, not Maldives. So there is a difference between creek and sea view”. To my surprise, I got a few likes and also a few funny replies to that comment. In another incident, I was shocked to see one of the reputed companies, who projected lavassa as Italy. Lavassa is actually a failed city in pune and people go there for a one day trip. And yes, there is no Italy feeling in that city at all. Absolutely nothing. Obviously, I commented requesting them not to spread false information. But a few days later, they uploaded one video, where they literally showed us what to steal from a hotel room and what not. Like you can steal toothbrushes and all but not iron. Really?? Is it?? We did not know this. So unfollow and live a peaceful life.
So basically, You can’t ignore the post. The post is portraited in such a way that you will comment on it or like it. Some netizens did on that undernutrition fake post, I did on this incomplete information post. It’s like Love it or hate it, but you can’t ignore it.
Social media is vast. Yes, I do portrait my life in that. You can say it, “Attention”. I do it for that and also, this is my time-pass. I follow some useless handles, I follow some valuable handles too. I had posted rubbish content, I had posted some valuable information too. I did show off, I showed my real life too. I stalk, I have blocked a few known people from stalking me.
In the end, I will just say a simple thing: be active on social media, but be alert. Keep your notification on. and don’t ignore them at all. Be safe. Click on likes, Comment on proper post / friend’s post only. & Please don’t click on unknown links.
Thanks a lot readers for taking your time and reading this post. Also, have a look at my social media post. “Life at social media“
The first Sunday of August. Teenagers love this day and eagerly wait for it. From different types of friendship bands, hugging and now just wishing, we all grew up.
I still remember, It was the “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai” movie, from there a friendship band came into picture and it’s still ruling. That time, I was in school and I even wanted to buy such bands. But in my school days, I had a very big gang. And I used to consider everyone as special friends. So, asking for money to buy a lot was a big task. So I did this; whatever bands I got from friends, I kept the one which I liked, the rest I tied to someone else, who were close. And those who were not so close, I wrote “Happy Friendship Day” on their hand. Oh yes, we used to write “Happy Friendship Day”, “you are my best friend”, “Best friend forever”, etc on a friend’s palm. Also, I wrote on their shirt. Sharing chocolates or small gifts was also a must. Gifts, hardly I had shared, but yes, I shared chocolates a lot.
Chocolates were differentiated based on how good a friend he or she is. If she is my best friend then a big Cadbury dairy milk, and if not then some small xyz chewy chocolate. And If you share or get KitKat, then you will sit and cry in the corner. Because sharing a KitKat means breaking up. The KitKat slogan also says this, “have a break, have a KitKat”. So if you get KitKat that means the friends don’t want you anymore. And if you get dairy milk chocolate, it means the person loves you. But that also depends on size. If you get big dairy milk then, you are special else you are their second friend.
We had even judged our friends, based on which type of band they had tied us to. If they had tied us to a very low quality band then we said “ta ta bye bye” to such a friend. Never thought at that time that their parents must have not given them money to buy bands. Though, we all kids were in the same pool yet we differentiated. “Mere paas bhi paise nahi hai, phir bhi me kuch toh achcha bands laayi hu”. (Even though I don’t have money, yet I have bought good bands than her)
Friendships Day and mischief, is must. Friendships day and Raksha Bandhan festival falls in the same month. Sometimes, very close by. So such was 2001 year. Raksha Bandhan was celebrated on 4th 2001, Saturday and friendships day on 5th, Sunday. Haa Haa!! Boys were too scared. What if they got Rakhi instead of Friendships band? Obviously, I also did that. I had tied Rakhi to one of my friend, instead of friendship band. Pity on boys.
This friendships day, sharing one of my 100-word content, which I had written in pandemic and had posted on Momspresso website.
A Wish And We All Gathered. —————-
What should we wish when this pandemic is around? Still a secret prayers were going on.
Days were hell, fighting with you all. Yet we finally met, after years and again we all fell in love.
Don’t have words to express, how was my world that day. A good bye hug, left me in mixed pain.
I wish you could all stay back a little longer. A fine talk with you and take out few information, like a sweet stalker.
A wish and prayers is still going on, Hope to meet you soon when this pandemic will gone.
Happy Friendships Day to all.. Be happy, stay safe.. and many many thanks a lot my readers for wonderful response on my latest blog post, “A Few Clicks To Remember“. Also, do read my post on friendship, “Supreme Companion“.