The Two Sides Of Coin

Hi all. I have come up again with yet another story. But I think, this one will be a different from the rest because in this I am not giving any moral or so-called lecture. But still I have to write disclaimer that this is purely my imagination and it is neither copied from other website nor related to real characters. And yes, my favorite line i.e. don’t sue me for this and blah blah.

In this story, there are two characters. Both of them have same name, Khushi. One is Ms. Khushi and other one is Mrs. Khushi. Both share the birthday and birth year. Their hobbies are also same. Surprisingly both holds the same degree. But one lives in Mumbai city and is unmarried  and other lives in a developed village and married. Developed village means all facilities are there but not as Mumbai city like its night life, food around every corner, easy travelling, etc.

Lets kick off with Ms. Khushi from Mumbai City:
Khushi as the name suggest happiness. The same way Ms. Khushi is optimistic in her life. She likes clubbing, roaming, enjoying life every bit and she has lots of friends. She was not a kitchen person. She hated to be in kitchen and in house. She was transparent about what she wanted in her life i.e. happiness from exploring places and parties with friends and relatives. What she was missing is boyfriend or true love. She had boyfriend in her past but she wanted a commitment. And hence, the search for a true love was going on. Along with that she was trying very hard to get into one company. She got rejected from that company many times, but she always tried to get there. And finally, she cracked the interview and got the job. She was amused, that she gave a lavish party to everyone. In that Party, she found one. That guy was working in the same company. After few months, they both got married. Now, both the Khushi(s) are Mrs. Khushi. Now the real life started after marriage. As I mention earlier that she was not the kitchen person. Her husband expected cooking from her, expected clean house. Even though her husband threw parties but he expected at least one dish made by her. Khushi could not able to handle both the professional and personal life and she was irregular to work. So obviously, she got warning from her office. The blame game began now. Her perseverance didn’t paid off. She decided to concentrate more on office life, and started doing clubs and parties with her friends. Her husband didn’t like this and decided to part his ways from her. Even Khushi agreed and she became Ms. Khushi again. But in all this mess, she was weary to work, she was powerless to club , distressed of parties. Even though she liked this, she wanted peace and wanted to relax. She was fazed by what she went through. So one day she went to this developed village, where one of her friend stay. And of course, our second Mrs. Khushi also stays in this village. She was so impressed by this village, its cleanliness, time-to-time routine. She decided to leave Mumbai city and settled there. She re-married and became Mrs. Khushi again.

Now lets see what second Khushi i.e. Mrs. Khushi doing in this developed village:
Mrs. Khushi, our original character from developed village. Mrs. Khushi is also glad with her life. Time-to-time routine, no late workings, Stills enjoys with her friends and relatives without clubbing and parties. But this Mrs. Khushi, loves to be in kitchen. She makes different foods every time. She loves to keep her house clean. And she too was clear with her life i.e. she wanted simple, no-hectic , no-problem life. But Yes, even though she was married, she was missing true love from her husband. She tired all possible ways to make him charmed, but her husband never notice her. Hence, she too was trying to get job of chef, since she was excellent in cooking, so that she can divert her mind from all this things. And yes, she got one. Her job life was pretty good. In promotion, she shifted to Mumbai. Even her husband came along with her. Mrs. Khushi was surprise to see Mumbai life. The late workings, the clubbing, etc. She was surprise to see that Mumbai never sleeps. and no one bother other. Everyone is in their own world. Mrs. Khushi started liking Mumbai a lot but her husband showed apathy because he was use to with his time-to-time routine. Things didn’t work out with them  and they decided to part their ways. Her husband came back to village but Khushi stayed. Now, Mrs. Khushi is Ms. Khushi. Staying in Mumbai, Ms. Khushi started doing parties and clubbing. She got many true love but she never committed to them. She started looking marriage through blue glasses. Ms. Khushi wants to be independent women in her whole life now.

So every coin has two sides. One gave chance to her broken marriage and re-married again, without any fear of divorce. Where as, the second one  was little fear to settle down. Both are right in their ways, as both are financially independent. As, we flip up the coin and wait for head or tail side, like ways our life too flips every second and every moment. We should never wait for head or tail side. Go with the flow, the solution is always with you, without fear.

Did I lectured again? Oh! My Bad. Hope you like my story. Do comment. 

The Honest Invitation

Hello my readers! A fantastic day to all. Well, you all must have come to know that  I reside in India. So in India, we respect our religion, our culture. Hence, we have to give invitations for our happiness. Whether it is a child’s first birthday party or marriage or success or settling abroad, we have to invite all, by giving proper invitations. Earlier, there was a one concept of invitation card, where it was kind of rule to go to our friends or relatives house, invite them and handover the invitation card to them. But now since WhatsApp is ruling everywhere, we create one image and send it in WhatsApp group. But still we Indians need an invitation card for marriage functions else we don’t go and also complain to others that we didn’t get any invitation. Also, the phone call is a must, else the complaint will be that we were not invited by heart. So, we spend a lot on the invitation card and write many things on it like welcome stanza, who is getting married to whom, lunch time, dinner time, reception time and address. But we ignore everything, except for lunch time and dinner time.

So, such is the case and such functions have lots of comments composed by friends or relatives that they didn’t like the food. We get to hear 98% negative comments and only 2% positive comments. The negative comments are mostly on food and on the bride’s look. Since, we have come to such functions only for food and hence we expect very good quality of food from the bride’s family. Usually, The arrangements of marriages function in India  are done by the bride’s family. Very few cases are there, where both the families agreed on the expenses. So, if we don’t get food as per our expectation then we don’t blame the caterers, we blame the bride’s family.

In one marriage function, few people literally insulted the bride’s family just because they had kept typical Indian food on the menu. The guests were expecting Italian, Mexican and all. But since they got simple food, they thought they had the right to say the same on the bride’s family face and be a snollygoster.  But they still bibble over their food. Well, The money was paid by the bride’s family and not by us.

Every marriage or any other function has such comments. Yes, there were comments on my marriage too. One even complained about the location of the banquet hall. They said that the  banquet hall was too far from their house and they are tired of travelling. Wow, you should have told me this before. I would have kept my marriage function in your house only. At Least I didn’t have to pay for the banquet hall. Such flotsam and jetsam comments take an emotional toll. For a few days only, but that few days the family goes through hell. Sleepless nights and the tiredness are unbroken.

So, I was thinking, what if we start giving honest invitations. What will the content be? Since I have written more on marriage functions, let’s start with the marriage invitation card.

Amrish Puri and Shahrukh Khan did “Aau Aau” to pigeons in movie Dilwale Dhulaniya Le Jaayenge (DDLJ), 
In the same way, XYZ family is doing “Aau Aau” to you and cordially invites you to the wedding of
Mr. ABC and Ms. CBA
on DD / MM, YYYY
from 7pm onwards,
followed by dinner at this address.

Since we have spent a lot hence we will accept only cash as a gift starting from 2000 Rps.
The dinner menu is as per the taste of the groom and  bride because it’s their day and not yours.
Return gifts will be given only to present members, not to the whole family. Don’t slyly ask for it.
The reception time is from 7pm to 9pm and no one will be entertained after 9pm because the couple will be more tired than you.

Thanks, Do come with your heart and soul.

I know, such an invitation is just a dream. But, to be on a lighter note, we should try to keep our mouth shut. No family orders for unappetizing food on the D-day, after spending extravagantly. It’s the caterers that don’t care. So it’s the duty of money spender to shout at them and not your duty to make them feel low. So next time, when you get an invitation, just enjoy, meet and greet others. Such comments have made the younger generation not to celebrate any functions with all. They enjoy it with their friends only because when they get taunted, they can insult their friends. Remember, days are gone when we were taught that elders are everything, respect them, don’t question them. This generation knows to give respect only if they get respect and they will always ask this question, “Why?”.. Well, this generation is good because they know the answer to everything. and we just know because our elders did it.

So, stay in touch, be happy and stop taunting. Enjoy the meet and be respected by all.

The Honest Invitation

Color Color Which Color Do You Want?

It gives an awesome feeling when we see colors. Just imagine that our mood is not in our control and suddenly you see a rainbow, for a while you will forget everything and keep staring at the rainbow. Yes, that’s the beauty of colors. Colors make our mind free. It enhances our mood. Our life is like a blank canvas and we have to fill these with beautiful colors.

Every person has their favorite colors but some people love colors according to their personality. The people who are strong enough have dark colors as their favorite. Many people believe that black color is unlucky. But those who have tenacity in life consider black color as their personality. I like black color too. A very dark pitch, shiny black color. It looks resplendent. I prefer my accessories to be in black, like shoes, hand bags, etc. Because it looks gorgeously stunning and also this color matches with any dress.

Colors are classified as per gender too. Pink for girls and blue for boys. Black and White for widows. But being a girl, I personally don’t favor pink at all. Pink is ok, cute. But I find this color very dull and boring. I chose blue to pink. Blue, on the other hand, gives relaxation to the eyes. Blue is cool. Blue has various variant. But pink variants are mundane . But seriously, I don’t know who made this color gender. I mean why can’t boys opt for pink? Why such gender partiality? and for girls, all colors are allowed except for black and white (only if they are married). Well, there are some offices where boys are not allowed to wear pink shirts. Yes, it’s true.

Sometimes I feel bad for boys. In umbrella selection, Girls have many options. But boys have only one and that is black. Well, I know boys don’t care about colors when it comes to things like umbrellas. But at least girls’ umbrellas don’t get stolen because of unique colors and patterns. Ha Ha! anyways, its a color discrimination against men. In the case of wallets, I like men’s wallets rather than women. Because it is easy to carry and fits easily in pockets. I know I can buy that, But girls’ costumes don’t have pockets. True. Reason is, if girls’ costumes start having pockets then the sale of handbags will decrease and hence no pockets. Yes, this is the reason. In Girls’ jeans also, It has pockets but just for show. Can’t even keep mobile in it.

Some people hate some colors as if that color has done something to their life. Many people avoid red. They have many beliefs against that color. Just imagine what if red was human. Even though it is the primary color, even though no other color can make red, even though it is the color of attraction and yet people point at it and say “I will get killed by a bull, if I wear you”.. Thank God! These colors are not human.

Some people love the Golden color a lot. But they think they look rich if they wear Golden dress, Golden shoes, Golden purse. Well someone will abduct you, thinking you are wearing real gold. But seriously, We girls have this weird habit of wearing everything in Gold just to look rich. Well, Huh, No comments, looks good on you, You wear, I will wear black. Contrast matching.

All colors have emotions attached to it. But I still don’t understand why? I mean, red is anger, danger but we also have red-colored hearts i.e. love. So Is red, anger or love? Same way, Black is sad but also classic and professional. Ha Ha ! oxymoron right ? Like our life. Obviously, I don’t give a fig about the emotions. I just love the way the colors are.  Just wear them along with a smile. Enjoy your day and make life colorful. To conclude, always play the color game, “Color Color Which Color Do You Want?”

Thinking and writing about colors, The Holi festival is just around the corner. Play safe Holi, and do read my memories on Holi