Do you need help? Yes, I need one. Help is something we usually do, depending on our mood and even ask in mood, and we get help in mood too. We always teach our child to help others. But do we adults do this by heart? We ask, but in the name of asking. If we get a reply as “no”, then we are happy inside. If we get a reply as “yes”, then we curse ourselves why we have asked?
“Do you need any help? ” – we keep asking this question in order to reduce someone’s work or reduce someone’s tension. But sometimes, we get so exhausted from our daily routine that we forget to ask this question. Due to many restrictions in this pandemic, we failed to ask even if we wanted to ask. But yet, people helped each other somehow in this difficult situation. But what amused me was people started asking this same question on social media when Bollywood Actor Sushant Singh Rajput departed his life. Well, Sushant Singh Rajput passed away on 14 June 2020, i.e. in the peak pandemic year and that time It was said that he was in depression and he committed suicide by hanging himself. Later, It turned out to be murder and the investigation is still going on. So, when the depression news broke out, everyone started posting on social media that we will help you, talk to us, etc etc and all that.
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My question here is “Will you surely help people who are in depression?”. Do you have that much time and energy to listen and understand someone’s story? If we don’t have someone’s phone number and that person calls you, then we will wait for truecaller. And upon knowing who is calling you, we either hang up the phone, send him a “busy in meeting” message or you will wait till the call disconnects on its own. But you will not pick the call. Harsh, but true. We never pick a call, if we don’t want to talk to that person. Then how come you are helping us?
In this pandemic, we saw a frightful cut of. The people who were lucky enough were overloaded by work. They didn’t had a choice and were working day and night in order to keep their job safe. Hence, people were exceedingly busy in meetings and meeting their deadline. In such a scenario, if some depressed person called you then you can’t tell him that you are busy. You can’t tell them to call later. A depressed person will be in more depression after hearing such a response from you. So leave it and please don’t help anyone.
This pandemic has put almost everyone in depression. Some people are still struggling to meet their needs. But they are not losing hope and trying their best to search for a job. For such people “Do you need any help?” is nothing but a curse for them. Some people believe in themselves so much that they don’t take help from anyone. And thus, we think that they don’t need help. But such people badly need you because they are already in such a bad stage and they don’t want us to take their tensions. So in such a situation, please understand and try to help with their basic needs.
Some people need financial help. But money always puts our relationship into trouble. We understand someone’s needs yet we don’t help them because of only one reason and that is that we don’t want to break the relationship. Still I will express my desire to financially help someone at least not extensively but partially. This will at least maintain the relationship. Well, in the end it totally depends on you and how much you want to help. No force, no compulsion.
To all people who are in depression, talking does help. But it also depends on the person whom you are talking to. Because you never know when your secrets will be revealed by them. So, in order to fight your depression, you have to go to a psychiatrist and get treated. There is no shame in consulting a doctor. Brain is your part of the body and it has to be nurtured. What’s the use of eating healthy food but not giving the right instructions to your brain? Your diet will be useless if you don’t treat your brain well. So without any hesitation consult a doctor. Go out, take a walk, meet and greet people. And don’t depend on other people. Take a day off from your daily routine, and go for a small vacation or one day trip. Try to keep your house and surroundings clean. This will help in positive vibes. Pray and meditate everyday for your own betterment. Eat food on time and listen to good music.
Well, I need help… Please suggest a topic for my next post.