The Rhymester In Me.

Hi, Hello my readers. I wrote my last two posts in a rapidness. Since I don’t get time to write, whenever I get a topic or content, I finish in one time frame. I know the time when I get hits to my blog, and hence I always write content like a race, forgets to reframe the sentence and publish the same within 2 hours. I do so, because I am a little bit scared to publish the content the next day. I don’t know whether I will be free at that time to publish the same. And after publishing, I literally take an hour to promote the link on all social media. So after the sudden decision of writing and publishing within 2 hours, My mind is completely featureless to think about new topics. To get the topic, I started searching the internet, and started reading other bloggers’ posts so that I can at least get some hints from their posts. So was one post about life but in composition.

So I’m thinking of trying something new today. I have written many articles about my life, about my profession. But this time I want to try something new. So, what’s new? Well, I was thinking about the topic and it just came to my mind that I have never done poetry. So let me try this time. To be honest, I have never done poetry in my life. I have no knowledge how to frame it. And hence I don’t know whether you will have a soft angle for this or not. So give me a chance, and read my poetry. A poetry about achieving small things in life. Here it goes!

Thought of a beautiful night
But little tired now.

Thought of changed things
But not worth buying now.

Nights will be beautiful, Things Will be changed.
But all I need to change myself
All I need to be fresh again

Thought of tight hug, thought of  better shoulder,
and best is the kiss
But all these I gave a miss

Things can be better
Things can be changed.
So no need to cry in corner
all I have to get up
and start the day with fresh rain.

Thought of a beautiful night
and I got one.

Thought of changed things,
and I got one.

Things I will get
Things I will achieve
only because I have tried
and I have made the time for the things I like.

Ha Ha!.. Obviously it took a lot of time framing this poem. Do comment if you like this or hate this. But you will never ignore this.  Obviously I will publish the liked comment ones. I will publish the hate ones too, only if the content is proper ūüôā 

Ecstasy Of Existence

Hello my readers! Today I am here (where else I will go?), to make you understand what makes the kid happy? I really want to know what comes to  their mind when you allow them to do their favorite thing or eat their favorite food.

I never allow my daughter to watch TV, whenever she is having her food. But I don’t know what came to my mind that day, that I told her to switch on the TV. No doubt, she took 1 hour to finish her food. But she was so happy that she relished her food and she didn’t leave a single grain in her plate. I was joyful to see that. But the negative part was that the food was cold and cold food don’t taste good. It’s not like that I¬†don’t allow her to watch TV or mobile. My daughter knows how to use paint software (Ms. Paint software) on laptop. She has a separate mobile where all educational games, including a couple of time pass games have been downloaded. She knows how to operate a TV remote, she even¬†knows how to operate YouTube on TV. Yet she was happy with my miniature decision and that was watching TV while having dinner. Reason, I think, is that I don’t allow her to do so.

The Gift From Santa

Last Christmas, I saw a video of my 2 year old niece. Where her father dressed up as Santa Claus and gave a bag full of toys to her. My niece was at cloud nine to see Santa Claus and those gifts. She forced her mother to open all the toys. There were some big toys like train and some small toys also. But my niece was overjoyed to see that one small toy that she forced her mother to open for her. What came to her mind? Why not the big toy? Why did she want only the small ones? Maybe she might have seen it somewhere in YouTube videos. Hence she might want that toy and must be happy to see that toy.

Now, Let’s¬†come to us. Why don’t we adults find happiness? The only reason, we demand bigger things. The things which might be expensive. Some demands for iPhone, some demands for PlayStation. But for us, it is somewhat expensive to give such things to our kids. But we adults¬† also demand things which must be expensive for the person to whom we are dependent. To be honest, now-a-days, dresses also are very costly. Hence such must be the reasons for us to not be happy. Because we kill our little dreams in our mind only.

We adults are done with TV, Instagram, Facebook. We are even done with WhatsApp and WhatsApp forward. Hence we want peace and the main thing is peace of mind. I get peace of mind when I write. But for some reason, I can’t write everyday. and hence no happiness. I am a kind of person, if I start writing then I will keep on writing for the whole day. But since I have other responsibilities and hence I leave my happiness behind. We adults also have a habit of keeping past things in mind. and hence our mind is always in grinder mode. We mix all our emotions together and the result comes out negative. Some past can never be forgotten, but some past can. Do consult a psychiatrist if you have a bad past. Really, this will help in your present life and your secrets will not get disclosed. We always get this opinion to forget and forgive. But we all know that we are not happy doing that. Forgetting and forgiving doesn’t always help. But to move on, we have to do this. This doesn’t guarantee happiness but yes, we move in a better direction.

Happiness for adults is totally different and we cannot compare the same with toddlers. because they don’t keep anything in mind. Their mind is pure. If you have seen the movie Kung Fu Panda then you will understand that since the panda’s mind was pure and had nothing in his mind and hence he was chosen as a warrior. But in adults, even if we keep purity in mind then also some negative energy stops us from achieving happiness.

So what’s the solution? The solution varies and it totally depends on the individual. If our standard of living is high then whatever you do, you will never get happiness in smaller things. So whether your standard of living is high or simple, ask for things you really want. Not for show-off. For showing, you have many other things. Second solution is mediation. But for this, you have to go for a complete course and never miss a single class, not even on weekends. If you skip then no use. Seriously.

So stop comparing our happiness with kids. You will get nothing.  Ha Ha !!. Start Collecting Flowers and not thorns. And let the past be past. 

The Changed Perspective

Hello my readers! So after a long time, here I am, again writing about office statistics. Office is a weird spooky home. Some enjoy and some not. Maximum people work for their living and some work for their love for work. Love for work? Huh? Yes, I have met just 1 person who said that he loves to work and doesn’t care about salary and he is not doing this for his living. Well, that person is rich and hence I feel that must be his attitude. Well, a very good attitude though. He is learning and also experiencing office life. So what’s there in experiencing office life? Just to learn how to work? Well, other than work we learn politics, bitching and most important color changing relationships and rising attitude towards our colleagues.

When I started with my job, I was told not to keep any close relationships with anyone. Not to make best friends. Just be neutral to all. Well, I didn’t work much there but in my second company, I somewhat made personal friends. Because my seniors used to get involved in everyone’s personal life. I felt that good because he helped not only in a professional way but also in a personal way. I even saw him helping financially when one of my colleagues got shocking news. And hence, staying with him, I too got involved personally with all other colleagues.

But the days were not good, when my senior resigned. He literally picked up only those people who were not married and took them along with him in the new company. This left me sad and angry because I was not on that list. Since I was getting married that year. Those chosen colleagues slowly took a step back because they didn’t want to reveal that they too will resign. This turned the relationships into just “Hi” and “hello.” That evening, I traveled back home holding my tears back. Soon, I too resigned from that company. That time I realized that keeping personal relationships with colleagues was totally wrong. Because I was not getting any excitement at work. I was not at all enjoying my work. Three things I learned. First, You help but see to it that you get your returns. Second, You help but don’t expect at all and third, Don’t help at all.

As it is rightly said by Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam, “Love your job. But don’t love your company. Because you may not know when your company stops loving you”. Same is the case with your colleagues as well. Don’t love your colleague. You may not know when they will start changing their attitude because of work or appraisals or resignations. Well, In one of my company, I suddenly got someone’s handover and when asked upon, he said, “tomorrow is my last day”. Well that guy used to sit beside me. We used to go for tea everyday, almost 2-3 times a day. We laughed, cracked jokes and this is what I came to know just before his last day. I was like, “why hide from me? Though we are in one team yet your work is different from mine”. And his reply was, “Just like that.” I was, what is this “just like that?” What do you mean by “Just like that?” Aren’t we friends? We share a good relationship. If you are getting a bigger opportunity then obviously I will be happy. Then what is this “Just like that?”. So his last day and of course last day of our friendship. Till date, we are not at all in touch.

I have even seen colleagues changing their attitude just on appraisal. Truth is, back in those days our salary used to be less. I started working for 10k per month . But now freshers get 30k to 40K per month. So obviously when the appraisal comes, the older employees, who started with a low salary, even if they get a good hike, their salary is always low compared to freshers one. and here, the attitude changes. Sometimes the attitude of the senior changes and sometimes the junior changes. But when the attitude of junior changes then the whole team suffers because of the professional-turned-personnel fights.

So? What’s the solution for this? Well, we all have this solution in our rules or contract of joining a company. That DON’T DISCLOSE YOUR SALARY TO YOUR COLLEAGUE. We always ignore almost all the rules and regulations of the company. But if you think in a different way, then you will come to know the reason why this rule is implemented. When your colleague asks your salary, tell them politely that you don’t disclose your salary to anybody other than your family members. Even If you get appraisal, don’t show your appraisal letter, don’t disclose how much percent hike you got and don’t show your happiness. If you maintain this throughout your professional life, you will be neutral to all your colleagues. Some companies even have this rule of not sharing computer passwords. In any case, if you had to share then change your password next moment and keep all your work in some secret folder. Don’t keep that folder on the desktop. And never keep login details on the office laptop. If for some reason, you had a personal talk with your boss, please don’t discuss that with others. Colleagues will always take this in a negative way. So only important things should be discussed with your colleagues.

And last but not the least, work should be communicated through official E-Mails only. Not by talks. This is the most important thing. When needed, you can show it as evidence. 

So, try these things. Be neutral to all. Happy Work life. Happy office. Prayers that the needy get a job.