Accept The Non-Acceptance

Hello my readers. Today there is no topic. No, means, my topic name, “Rejection”. Sometimes, it can be disturbing for us, when we get “No” from someone. Whether it is job or love or success or some small trip, A “No” ruins our day badly. We had prepared well for a job interview, prepared well to say to someone “I love you”, prepared to ask for financial help for success, But we never prepared for rejection. Reason, we sometimes don’t think in other ways. People who have given lots of interviews don’t take the rejection seriously. Infact, we should never take rejection seriously. Rejection always has some different story, some different angle.

Sometimes, I am also scared to say “No” for something, to any person. Whenever I want to say No, I always frame the sentence in such a way that the other person should not feel bad. But I hate to do this. Why does someone not understand the “No” language? Why does he or she have to take it seriously?

This happened to me once. I was told to take responsibility for some other kid for sometime. I politely refused because my own kid was very hyper active and hence I was behind her, all eyes on her. As I was scared that my kid wouldn’t hurt another kid. But the lady got angry and started lecturing me, saying, “it’s just a matter of a few minutes. How can you say no?” I again started explaining to her my situation, and also I was running here and there, behind my daughter. But the lady was running behind me just to express her anger. I was so pissed off, that my voice got raised and told her to find someone else. Yet she continued. I chose to be silent then. After a few minutes, some parents came to me and said she always does this. and we all say no to her. Here, my only question? Why was the rejection so hard? Why was she not able to understand my situation here?  But I can’t blame her, because there are few incidents like this and it was from the people whom I knew well.

Well, sometimes, I also don’t accept rejection. Mainly from my daughter. My daughter always says “No” whatever it is. She likes to be in her own world. And if I disturb her and ask a few things then she will always reject me. Though she is small, she doesn’t understand much. But I still ask for an answer for her rejection. If I am not happy with her answer then, I fight with her alot. She says “No” so much that one day I ask her many questions. All her answers were “No”, “No, I will not say”, “I don’t want to answer”, etc. Then I asked whether she would like to have Maggie. And her answer was “no”. Later she realized what she said and she forced me to prepare Maggie for her. and then my answer was “NO”.

It is said, “Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough, it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer”. Sorry, but I completely disagree with this slogan. If you are not good enough, you have to accept that. You can’t become a pilot overnight to fly. If you are good at one thing, it means you are bad at something else. You can take out any motivational stories, some are school dropouts, some are college dropouts, some had failed marriage, etc. But yet they succeed in something else. So, You are. If you get rejected, it means you are zero in that particular point, and you have to work out a lot. If not then your destiny has some other plans.

Boys say that we girls hide our real face from makeup, indirectly forcing them not to reject us from marriage. First of all dear boys, you are not so dum that you fail to see the makeup. If any girl has done heavy makeup, and still you accepted her, by her looks then you have to get your eye check up done. There are many cases, where girls were naturally beautiful, and for some unfortunate incident they lost her beauty, which resulted in divorce. So no need to blame girls with makeup.

It is said that rejection affects our mental health. Sorry, again I don’t agree with this. The problem here is not rejection. The problem here is your mental health. That needs to be nurtured first. As I have written earlier, that lady was upset because I refused to see her kid. So here, my rejection was not a problem. Her mental health was so poor that a simple requesting “No”, made her mad. She couldn’t understand my problem too and hence rejection was blamed.

Saying “No” is not at all bad. Just Say No, if you are not comfortable. A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise. It is always better than a wrong selection. It is someone’s opinion. So get used to rejections. If you are rejected, just say “ok, not today, maybe tomorrow”. And always believe in yourself.

Thanks for reading, my readers. Hope you like my post. It’s ok, if you say “No”, because I know, not all my posts are good.

12 thoughts on “Accept The Non-Acceptance

  1. Sometimes we take rejection too personally. The initial reaction might be to feel hurt but it helps to think about the way the other person is feeling. Seen through that lens, rejection might have occurred out of jealousy, tiredness, misunderstanding, and for all types of unfathomable reasons that are not obvious to us as recipients of the comment.

    • Yes.. Initially even i used to take rejection seriously. But as an adult we understand that rejection. True to your point as well. But in the end it all on us how we interprete it.

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