The Zodiac Signs

When I heard about the Zodiac Signs, I wondered what is this? First of all, what is the meaning of the Zodiac Signs? So as per the internet, “it is a belt of the heavens within about 8° either side of the ecliptic, including all apparent positions of the sun, moon, and most familiar planets. It is divided into twelve equal divisions or signs (Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces)”. So basically, the Zodiac means circle or cycle or round or merry-go-round which is divided into twelve equal signs.

So when I was in school, and I came across these Zodiac Signs, the first thing that came in my mind was, who will remember these names now? Because at that time, I was already learning the names of Indian months. And believe me, It’s still difficult for me to remember the names and also its spelling. And my next question which is always the same for everything, i.e. who invented these signs?

As when I grew up, I saw that many actually follow their signs. Like, they will check in the newspaper about their today’s horoscope and act accordingly the whole day. This annoys me alot. I am not against reading fortune or astrology. But stop disgracing others. If the fortune says, stay away from people whose names start from “d” (for example), People actually followed that. Whole day they will ignore friends/ relatives, even their family members whose names started from “d”. This might have given you good luck, but you ended up losing someone. So is that good luck to you?

I always wonder, what’s there in these Zodiac Signs? Why does it have an effect in our lives? Like in India we say “Shani bhaari hai, Raahu – ketu ke prabhaav hai, etc”. Does this really affect our life? Or does it affect our “mind” and hence our life? Well, this will be a big debate.

When Instagram started ruling, I came across this handle. Well, my Zodiac Sign is Virgo. To be more precise, August Virgo. Because, this handle distinguishes August Virgo and September Virgo. According to this handle, August Virgo acts differently and September Virgo acts differently. September Virgo are more dangerous than August Virgo. So I started following. Following this handle, not the sign. Some facts were so true that actually made me to like it, share it and comment on it. One such fact is “Virgos are introverts, But when you know them you will wonder, why she / he doesn’t stop talking”. Well, very true.  

But wait, is this behaviour just because I am Virgo or because I chose to be like this? If this is because of Virgo, then I can’t change myself. Virgo has to change in order to change me. But If this is because of me, then I should not change. Because who cares, if I change. Still a big question to point at Virgo sign. I am perplexed.

I usually don’t open up until I know the person. Once I start knowing them, Then I show all my different faces. In Hindi it is, “mere alag-alag roop”. 

Mere Alag-Alag Roop

Since, I don’t earn now and hence I do some timepass research. So I searched who is the enemy of Virgo? So google said, “Virgo enemy signs include Sagittarius, Aries, and Gemini. These signs do not get along with Virgo”.  Ha ha!. I am married to Gemini, and that too love marriage. Yes, we do fight but we are not enemies at all.  And again, Ha ha ha Ho Ho Ho! My daughter is Aries. She has no choice when she says that she wants to eat different food and I denied it. Poor girl, eats whatever I make.

Well, wait, Should I worry? That means father-daughter will plan a big plot against me? Oh No!! Then I should run. Anyways, again as per internet, Virgo is the second sign who runs from situations, when things don’t go as per their plan. But who cares?

Since I have lots of time to waste on googling about Virgo, Hence what color is Virgo attracted to? The colours that appeal best to a Virgo are pastels and pale shades such as peach and mauve to light blue and light pink. Apart from these, earthy colours like grey, dull brown, and all shades of brown appeal to them. — Wait… what ?? pale shades, peach, light pink, grey, dull brown??? Seriously ??? I hate these colours.. Now the question arises, Am I really a Virgo??

Following your signs is not an issue. Issue is when you create an issue out of it. Read, understand and leave the content aside. It’s the people who are good or bad to you, not their sign. Like I said, My husband is Gemini and my daughter is Aries, does this mean that they are enemies to me? No.. not at all. Even people sharing the same birth date have opposite personalities. So, just read your horoscope, take a few points seriously, and be alert. Anyways, you have to be alert every day, every minute, even if the horoscope says, “Good news ahead”.

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Resting Is Not Relaxing

Hello my fabulous readers. A very good day to all.  Today, I am here with yet another story. So here goes my disclaimer first, because this is the most important before starting any story. So, here it goes.

This story is totally my imagination and has nothing to do with the real life characters or any dead person, not even animals. I have not stolen this story at all. So please do not sue me for this. and blah blah.  Well actually, this is not a story. This is just an example to make you understand something about resting and relaxing.

You know, this boy wanted to go on a vacation. He asked his girlfriend to come along with him. Girlfriend was super excited for this vacation as she never saw that place. Boy on the other hand was very tired from his daily routine and he wanted a break. So after a long wait, the journey started. The girl was excited as she was spending quality time with her boyfriend. After the hotel check-in, the boy went to the shack, ordered his favorite hard drink and sat there quietly. The girl, on the other hand, was roaming all around the beach and was least interested in food and drinks. Thinking, the boyfriend must be tired due to the long journey, she preferred to leave him alone.

The boy drank like a madman. The sun set and he left for his room. He dose off. The girl was a little upset with his behaviour. “Drinking is not bad. But why does he drink so much that he doesn’t have any control on himself”. Since she was more excited about the place, she forgot to eat at the right time and hence she was more hungry now. She went to the shack, order her food. But she was feeling lonely and didn’t enjoy her food at all. Thinking that he must be very tired, she made up her mind and went to sleep.

Next day, she woke up early. But he refused to get up. She again went to the beach, had coffee with the beautiful sunrise and came back to room after a few hours. He was awake. She said the breakfast was ready but he refused to eat and went back to sleep. She had her breakfast alone. Now she is bored, because she has already seen this place and wanted to explore more places. But all she got was rejection because he wanted to rest. Just rest and nothing else. She, on the other hand, took all the information from the receptionist and went to explore other places. She was scared, yet she dared to roam alone.

So as usual, after a few days, the vacation got over. They headed back home. The girl was quiet  but was happy because she did what she wanted. The daily routine started. The girl was very active in her work but the boy was still tired. But how come? The girl did lots of activity during her vacation, the girl should be tired. and the boy just rested there, so he must have overcome his tiredness. But no, The girl was very active. and the boy was very tired. But why ??

Because, resting is not relaxing. Doing nothing increases tiredness. It adds fuel to your mental health and makes you more tired and urges you not to do any work. This also adds anxiety, mood-swings and anger. So if you want to relax, you have to do some activity of your choice. If you are on vacation, then you have to check out nearby places. Else, you will be tired after reaching home. Physical exercise is a must in order to rest your mind. Sitting on a couch, and watching a sunset or movie for the whole day is not relaxation. This will end up, making you a “Couch Potato” and suffer from TATT syndrome.

Doing our favourite activity like swimming, cycling or dancing, whatever activity, boosts our mind and makes our mind sharp. Also, It helps to improve sleep. Doing nothing makes us feel bad for everything. and we start over thinking. Rest occurs while we are asleep, relaxation occurs while we are awake, and involves us engaging in activities that we enjoy.

So next time, while going out, don’t just sit and rest. Give your mind different varieties of fruits, not over-thoughts. Explore the places, no matter how many times you have seen that place. If not then play games with your companions. 

Hope you enjoy reading my post. Next time, enjoy your vacation. and don’t make a desultory attempt.

Accept The Non-Acceptance

Hello my readers. Today there is no topic. No, means, my topic name, “Rejection”. Sometimes, it can be disturbing for us, when we get “No” from someone. Whether it is job or love or success or some small trip, A “No” ruins our day badly. We had prepared well for a job interview, prepared well to say to someone “I love you”, prepared to ask for financial help for success, But we never prepared for rejection. Reason, we sometimes don’t think in other ways. People who have given lots of interviews don’t take the rejection seriously. Infact, we should never take rejection seriously. Rejection always has some different story, some different angle.

Sometimes, I am also scared to say “No” for something, to any person. Whenever I want to say No, I always frame the sentence in such a way that the other person should not feel bad. But I hate to do this. Why does someone not understand the “No” language? Why does he or she have to take it seriously?

This happened to me once. I was told to take responsibility for some other kid for sometime. I politely refused because my own kid was very hyper active and hence I was behind her, all eyes on her. As I was scared that my kid wouldn’t hurt another kid. But the lady got angry and started lecturing me, saying, “it’s just a matter of a few minutes. How can you say no?” I again started explaining to her my situation, and also I was running here and there, behind my daughter. But the lady was running behind me just to express her anger. I was so pissed off, that my voice got raised and told her to find someone else. Yet she continued. I chose to be silent then. After a few minutes, some parents came to me and said she always does this. and we all say no to her. Here, my only question? Why was the rejection so hard? Why was she not able to understand my situation here?  But I can’t blame her, because there are few incidents like this and it was from the people whom I knew well.

Well, sometimes, I also don’t accept rejection. Mainly from my daughter. My daughter always says “No” whatever it is. She likes to be in her own world. And if I disturb her and ask a few things then she will always reject me. Though she is small, she doesn’t understand much. But I still ask for an answer for her rejection. If I am not happy with her answer then, I fight with her alot. She says “No” so much that one day I ask her many questions. All her answers were “No”, “No, I will not say”, “I don’t want to answer”, etc. Then I asked whether she would like to have Maggie. And her answer was “no”. Later she realized what she said and she forced me to prepare Maggie for her. and then my answer was “NO”.

It is said, “Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough, it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer”. Sorry, but I completely disagree with this slogan. If you are not good enough, you have to accept that. You can’t become a pilot overnight to fly. If you are good at one thing, it means you are bad at something else. You can take out any motivational stories, some are school dropouts, some are college dropouts, some had failed marriage, etc. But yet they succeed in something else. So, You are. If you get rejected, it means you are zero in that particular point, and you have to work out a lot. If not then your destiny has some other plans.

Boys say that we girls hide our real face from makeup, indirectly forcing them not to reject us from marriage. First of all dear boys, you are not so dum that you fail to see the makeup. If any girl has done heavy makeup, and still you accepted her, by her looks then you have to get your eye check up done. There are many cases, where girls were naturally beautiful, and for some unfortunate incident they lost her beauty, which resulted in divorce. So no need to blame girls with makeup.

It is said that rejection affects our mental health. Sorry, again I don’t agree with this. The problem here is not rejection. The problem here is your mental health. That needs to be nurtured first. As I have written earlier, that lady was upset because I refused to see her kid. So here, my rejection was not a problem. Her mental health was so poor that a simple requesting “No”, made her mad. She couldn’t understand my problem too and hence rejection was blamed.

Saying “No” is not at all bad. Just Say No, if you are not comfortable. A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise. It is always better than a wrong selection. It is someone’s opinion. So get used to rejections. If you are rejected, just say “ok, not today, maybe tomorrow”. And always believe in yourself.

Thanks for reading, my readers. Hope you like my post. It’s ok, if you say “No”, because I know, not all my posts are good.