The Factual Winner

Where NOT is the competition? You are welcome in this world, because you have competed with many other sperms. Ha Ha!! and hence the celebration, the victory, for you to enter this world. Life is a race, you compete, you succeed. In each and every step, you will find competition and competitors. Office, college, school and even taking admission in nursery, you will find competitors. “My child knows A for apple, your child knows only ABC, my child wins !! ” – Haa Haa !

But in this competition, who wins ? One who is the winner or the one who actually struggles from failure. Well in this case, both are winners. But what we see is the result. We don’t see their struggle, we just see the result. Even if the result is not from a good source of background, then also we see the result. Resulting in other competitors to struggle more.

. Well in the case of kids, just imagine what parents go through. We all say that it’s ok, if the child is not good in studies, It’s ok if this, It’s ok if that. But we all know that if the child is not good at studies, then parents have to buckle up and make them study day and night. In this both parent and child suffer a lot and the child suffers in hell. Because If the child is not good in studies, then whatever you do, The child will not cope up. But we want winners. Because we see winners. Harsh but true reality.

There was one time, when we never used to get more than 93% marks. because it was not allowed. Only in mathematics, full marks were allowed but in the rest of the subject, there was a cutoff. Like 98 out of 100 or 95 out of 100 and you fail only if you score below 35 out of 100. That means both pass and fail had numbers. But now, not scoring more than 97 is like failure. You will not get admission in the college of your choice. But what confuses me is that entering a good college requires only a percentage. They will not see, from which medium you are from, they will not see which board you had taken in 10th grade, they will not see whether you have taken some kind of scholarship, They will not see which subjects you excel, nothing. They  just see the percentage. Still, we want our kid to know A B C D of each and every subject. Not only that, they should know about Hollywood movies too. This is what we see. The result!

After all this struggle, some kids are forced to specialize just because many of their relatives have done it. We, parents will not see in which company our child is working, whether the company is good or not, whether my child is happy working there or not, No nothing. All we see is the result. Result of some relative who is lucrative. Just because he or she has done specialization and got a job through that course. The result!

Have you heard about peer pressure? This is something when your friends have it, but you don’t. We always see what your friend has. We never see what your friend doesn’t have. This results in the pressure of wanting your friend’s life. There are many crimes between kids when they come across such pressure. Please, we only have to stop it. Some parents give each and every thing to their kid, that’s good, not at all bad but we have to make sure that our child doesn’t get jealous of it. Our child doesn’t care for it. For that we have to teach our kids to be patient and make them understand about the advantages and also disadvantages of that thing.

Regarding studies, as I said, we only want results. and hence we have to prepare our child from its birth. As there is no choice, your child should know the different monkeys i.e. gorilla, chimpanzee, orangutan, etc. your child should know the difference between crocodile and an alligator. I know its stupid, But this is we, who wants result and don’t want to see the struggle. A for NOT “All” because “All” doesn’t start with an Ae sound.

Laughing with this. But I have no choice. Study  Study Study. Get 98% marks. Go to damn good college. Go for specialization, Go aboard, Earn in dollars, and live your life at your retirement age.

By the way, who is the real winner? Time.. Time won. because we will see results. and no one is gonna ask you once you retire. Ha Ha !

Busy Never Stops

When you get bored, what do you do ? In this “work from home” world, you will get ignored maximum times. You will keep on waiting for someone to be free. It is rightly said, “Some talk in their free time and some free their time to talk to you”. This work from home culture has forced me to fall in the first category. I was the one who knew to talk even if I was busy. If I was extremely busy, I still used to pick calls and request them to call later. But Yes, I used to respond immediately. Now since I pick-up calls and reply to any message quickly, I am literally taken for granted. People started thinking that I have ample free time. “Busy” And “extremely busy” are two words which has more value now.

But still, Whenever I get “ping”, I always have a smile on my face. I always respond as quickly as possible. Not because I’m free, Because some conversation has to be quick and funny or serious at that time only. But, we can’t do anything if we are on their ignore list. I find this very funny. People say they are busy. But they have time to check each and everyone’s WhatsApp status. Though I should not comment negatively on this because I want people to check mine and click on my blog links, But it’s funny.

According to me, no one is free. Everyone is busy. But it’s up to you how to take out your time. By saying all the time that you are busy, no one will value you in the next moment. Expecting someone to understand your busyness is foolish. Stop at once. You will lose what you had. And we should also stop wandering around them. Because they don’t know how to take time, So they will never be free for you. You can’t do anything if you see someone going away from you. Don’t disrespect yourself.

Busy Never Stops. It is something that keeps on going. It is not weak, prideful, or foolish to take one day, one hour, one minute for you. Reading books or following your hobby is good. I am not saying to be in touch with people all the time. But yes, talking to someone heals a lot more than books and following hobbies. So, where is the joy in pinging? It’s like, you will still be in touch, by responding to their post or pic. You will automatically get a response, but a general response. but it’s ok. At least the funny or serious conversation will start for a moment. Usually the conversations are funny and hence there are chances of that conversation to be lengthy. To relax your mind, You have to take out some time for conversation, Whether it is a call or message but at least be in touch. Don’t wait for you to get free and then reply. Because work never stops, Work will never wind up, things never stop, Your imagination never stops, Your Planning never stops and IT SHOULD NOT STOP. Being busy is good, VERY GOOD but as I said, learn how to spare time. Time is always available for ease and relaxation.