Hello my readers! Today I am here (where else I will go?), to make you understand what makes the kid happy? I really want to know what comes to  their mind when you allow them to do their favorite thing or eat their favorite food.

I never allow my daughter to watch TV, whenever she is having her food. But I don’t know what came to my mind that day, that I told her to switch on the TV. No doubt, she took 1 hour to finish her food. But she was so happy that she relished her food and she didn’t leave a single grain in her plate. I was joyful to see that. But the negative part was that the food was cold and cold food don’t taste good. It’s not like that I don’t allow her to watch TV or mobile. My daughter knows how to use paint software (Ms. Paint software) on laptop. She has a separate mobile where all educational games, including a couple of time pass games have been downloaded. She knows how to operate a TV remote, she even knows how to operate YouTube on TV. Yet she was happy with my miniature decision and that was watching TV while having dinner. Reason, I think, is that I don’t allow her to do so.

The Gift From Santa

Last Christmas, I saw a video of my 2 year old niece. Where her father dressed up as Santa Claus and gave a bag full of toys to her. My niece was at cloud nine to see Santa Claus and those gifts. She forced her mother to open all the toys. There were some big toys like train and some small toys also. But my niece was overjoyed to see that one small toy that she forced her mother to open for her. What came to her mind? Why not the big toy? Why did she want only the small ones? Maybe she might have seen it somewhere in YouTube videos. Hence she might want that toy and must be happy to see that toy.

Now, Let’s come to us. Why don’t we adults find happiness? The only reason, we demand bigger things. The things which might be expensive. Some demands for iPhone, some demands for PlayStation. But for us, it is somewhat expensive to give such things to our kids. But we adults  also demand things which must be expensive for the person to whom we are dependent. To be honest, now-a-days, dresses also are very costly. Hence such must be the reasons for us to not be happy. Because we kill our little dreams in our mind only.

We adults are done with TV, Instagram, Facebook. We are even done with WhatsApp and WhatsApp forward. Hence we want peace and the main thing is peace of mind. I get peace of mind when I write. But for some reason, I can’t write everyday. and hence no happiness. I am a kind of person, if I start writing then I will keep on writing for the whole day. But since I have other responsibilities and hence I leave my happiness behind. We adults also have a habit of keeping past things in mind. and hence our mind is always in grinder mode. We mix all our emotions together and the result comes out negative. Some past can never be forgotten, but some past can. Do consult a psychiatrist if you have a bad past. Really, this will help in your present life and your secrets will not get disclosed. We always get this opinion to forget and forgive. But we all know that we are not happy doing that. Forgetting and forgiving doesn’t always help. But to move on, we have to do this. This doesn’t guarantee happiness but yes, we move in a better direction.

Happiness for adults is totally different and we cannot compare the same with toddlers. because they don’t keep anything in mind. Their mind is pure. If you have seen the movie Kung Fu Panda then you will understand that since the panda’s mind was pure and had nothing in his mind and hence he was chosen as a warrior. But in adults, even if we keep purity in mind then also some negative energy stops us from achieving happiness.

So what’s the solution? The solution varies and it totally depends on the individual. If our standard of living is high then whatever you do, you will never get happiness in smaller things. So whether your standard of living is high or simple, ask for things you really want. Not for show-off. For showing, you have many other things. Second solution is mediation. But for this, you have to go for a complete course and never miss a single class, not even on weekends. If you skip then no use. Seriously.

So stop comparing our happiness with kids. You will get nothing.  Ha Ha !!. Start Collecting Flowers and not thorns. And let the past be past.