Be it a man or a woman, life always turns upside down for everyone. Some say man’s life is best  and some say women’s life is best. One day, I asked my friend to give her opinion. She said man’s life is best because their tensions are valid. They have job tension, which is valid. Tension regarding educating their children, which is again valid. Food, expenses, earning, all are valid tensions. But women, not only go through this, they also go through unwanted tension and that tension society gives her. Like, her clothing, her cooking style, her hair and speaking tone. Yes society judges her on the basics of her speaking tone too. Man, if not good at bed then its ok, But if a woman is not good or she doesn’t conceive then it’s a big problem and a shame for society. Here comes the most educated people from our own side and tries to educate us, because they believe that they have ‘experienced’ it.

Charity begins from home. This famous quote applies not only for charity but everywhere. To change the mindset of society, we have to change the mindset of our own  people. But yes, we can’t change them. Because they have their own background and cultures. Here, I’m not saying that they are bad, I’m saying that at least women should have “courtesy” to understand their own daughters. But all they see is our clothing, our cooking style (which is almost western now), our ways of working in the office, etc. For every reason, they believe that  our office work has impacted us. This might be true, but not 100%. Same way, society questions men too. But It’s a valid one “Koi kaam-thanda nahi hai?”.. (Don’t you have work?) How much do you earn? (because, salary should be revised according to your need) .

Lady – The Living Legend

Yes, all should earn and everyone has the right to earn, not only boys. Even we girls, feel great when we get a salary in our hand. It is rightly said, Don’t ask man, their salary and don’t ask women their age. Because men don’t earn for themself and women don’t live for her. But if this is true then please don’t ask women to do not-so-possible things. Right from house work, till earning , educating children, thinking about their clothes, thinking about the up-coming events,etc. Ladies even have to keep in  mind about what gift was given last year. If this is a lady’s job to keep such things in mind, then why blame that she keeps everything in mind. We can’t train our mind to be different in different situations.

So what’s next? What’s the solution? As I said earlier, Charity begins from home. If we want our elders  to change, then it is us who should explain them, fight with them, and make them understand that such things are not wrong. If We succeed, then no one will dare to ask you that stupid question- “What? you are still not married… “